5
Steps to Releasing Emotional Clutter
If you imagine that life is a journey
we are all on. Some of us have a destination in mind, we
have a map and all the equipment and money that we need
to get us there.
Some of us have no idea where we are
going and few resources but we are perfectly content with
that, we just want to have an adventure and enjoy the journey.
On our
travels we can encounter challenges that slow us down or change
our course. Sometimes we let the challenges get us down, they
make our journey less enjoyable and sometimes the obstacles
stop us altogether, we feel stuck, unable to continue on the
journey at all. This is what emotional clutter does to us.
This newsletter is about how we can
deal with those challenges and obstacles.
Step
One: Identify Your Emotional Clutter
Start a list of your gripes, moans,
fears, anxieties, complaints anger, anything that springs
to mind. Allow as much time as needed on this and keep adding
during the week as other things crop up.
The most important thing to remember
here is that the purpose of the exercise is to identify
not to immerse yourself in negative emotions, to unearth
what's there so that we can shine a light onto it. So don't
dwell on the negative feelings. If you do get emotional
or bogged down, take a breather, go for a walk, a sleep,
read, watch tv and come back to the list later on.
It's important to be honest even
if you feel a little uncomfortable. When I did my list there
were some feelings that I felt very guilty about.
Step
2: How Would You Like to Feel?
Now comes the juicy bit, the bit that starts to unstuck
the vile sludge of negativity. Take each one of your moans
in turn and write exactly how you would like it to be and
why. Get into the feeling place. Even if the things are
in the past or you feel you can't do anything about them,
it doesn't matter, just identify how you would have liked
things to have been. How you would like things to be now.
Keep all your language positive, about what you want, not
what you don't want.
It's
important again to be very honest. What do you really want?
It does not matter if it seems to be in the realm of fantasy.
This is your Well,
What Do I Want? list.
Treasure it. You will be adding to it and using it to build
more positivity.
You
have taken your first steps on your new journey.
Step
3: What Could You Do Now?
Go back to your Well, What Do I Want?
list. Take each item in turn and ask yourself this
question:
In
order to fully release my negative feelings and embrace
the positive intention that's here, what could I do next?
It's important to understand
that it doesn't mean that you have to do something it just
means that you could do it.
It's about opening the possibilities up. About opening the
door and shinning the torch in. There is no pressure here,
no list of must do's.
Some of the things that
come up will be practical, others emotional. Here are some
examples from my list:
-
forgive him
-
forgive myself
-
get a gardener
-
enjoy the chocolate
-
write a letter
-
ask for some advice
All that you need to make sure is
that all the possibilities are ones that would make you
feel good or better in some way.
It very likely that by now you will
have new impetus and resolve to take positive steps. You
may have a strong desire to look forwards rather than back.
Go with it and enjoy yourself!
Step
4: Time for Action?
Finding ways that we could declutter our emotions is liberating
and makes us feel more positive. Taking positive actions
is even more powerful.
Which item on your list could
you do first?
Which item on your list could
be the easiest to do?
Which item on your list could
be the most powerful to do?
Take
the steps you need to start making yourself feel better.
Step
5: Releasing Unconscious Emotions
This step encourages us to look at the next level of our emotions:
the unconscious.
Are there areas where you feel very
stuck and nothing seems to create a shift for you?
Becoming
an Observer
By becoming the observer of your own feelings you will come
to a greater understanding of yourself and be better able
to let things go as negative emotions release their grip
on you.
I first came across the notion of
being an observer in Thresholds of the Mind by Bill Harris.
Bill calls it, Finding the Witness. The idea is that a part
of you observes what is happening even as it happens. When
you observe in this way you feel as if you are standing
outside yourself and observing how you're feeling, what
you are doing, and how you're interacting with your environment.
You learn incredible amounts about
yourself by doing this and after a really short space of
time you begin to have a greater understanding of your emotions.
This gives you choice.
Become an observer.
What do you learn?
Learning
EFT
Another technique which can really help to clear unconscious
blocks is EFT. This stands for Emotional Freedom Technique.
This is free for everyone to learn and can be truly miraculous
so check it out at: www.emo-free.com.
What's wonderful about this technique is how easy and completely
emotionally painless it can be.
One
Final Word
There are many professionals that are there to help you
release emotional blocks and I would strongly advise that
you seek this help if you are struggling on your own.
-
Psychotherapists
-
Kineisiologists
-
Psychologists
-
Life Coaches
-
Counsellors
-
Spiritual Guidance
If you
feel you have serious emotional problems start with your GP
who will refer you.
Above
all, enjoy the journey!
Have
a wonderful life: emotional, physical and spiritual.
Clear
that clutter and enjoy!!! !
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